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            In my ten years of dating in the scratch and dent section, I’ve noticed that nobody really thinks about changing their behavior. It’s always about somebody else and their behavior that keeps us from a great relationship. It’s easier to think that way, but the end result is just more unsuccessful dates. Believe me in this, as I’m the expert in unsuccessful dating! I have a long history of being unwilling to change as well and yes, there’s a connection there.

            That’s why I’ve developed some general guidelines for dating in your thirties and forties. They’re not rules because everybody hates rules and it reminds me of those harpies who wrote the book about the dating rules (notice that they’re divorced now). My guidelines are observations and suggestions for how dates can go and how to improve them. So many books on dating tell women that everything is the man’s fault. Yes, men certainly have their faults and I know women are eager to point them out to us men, but believing that it’s mostly the other person’s fault will get you nowhere. Take a look at my guidelines and tips and see if any of them apply to your life. If you’re reading this book, you’re not having successful relationships and so some of them will apply to you. It’s then up to you to decide if you want to change or not.

You don’t have to change, but aren’t you tired of bad dates? There’s only so much that furniture polish can hide, so stop worrying about the superficial and concentrate on the product that the furniture polish covers. Because everybody except you can see your issues quite clearly, no matter how well you think you’re hiding them. It’s like a bald guy who has two hairs and he combs them across his bald, shiny skull. He combs those two tiny hairs across that huge bald head and really believes that because of that nobody will notice that he's bald. Unfortunately, all the rest of us see is a pathetic guy who can't accept his baldness and has no concept of reality. Just like Combover Guy, you may think a superficial change is all you need, but everyone else in the world knows you need a little more than that.

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